http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/04/14/the-im-right-your-wrong-dynamic/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 15:32:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/04/14/the-im-right-your-wrong-dynamic/#comment-48 suzi from CT Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:21:24 +0000 http://janeshure.com/blog/?p=49#comment-48 Wow. Struck a deep chord with me. Such an important part of my therapy has been the very difficult recognition that sometimes I am right, and not always wrong and that I have permission to speak and voice my opinion. And truthfully when it all comes down at the end of the day, I am learning that it isn't about right or wrong but either learning and recognizing that others see things differently than I. But that doesn't devalue my opinion or belief, I am learning to understand. Wow. Struck a deep chord with me. Such an important part of my therapy has been the very difficult recognition that sometimes I am right, and not always wrong and that I have permission to speak and voice my opinion. And truthfully when it all comes down at the end of the day, I am learning that it isn’t about right or wrong but either learning and recognizing that others see things differently than I. But that doesn’t devalue my opinion or belief, I am learning to understand.

]]> http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/04/14/the-im-right-your-wrong-dynamic/#comment-45 myname Thu, 16 Apr 2009 22:53:06 +0000 http://janeshure.com/blog/?p=49#comment-45 I believe that we can only think we are "wrong" when we buy into the belief that others are "right". The same approach as science. We have no middle without discovering the ends. It is only when we open ourselves enough to question the other person and open ourselves to question ourselves, that we understand. Wouldn't it be cool to have someone say- "Oh, I thought i heard this my way but what did you hear?" Perhaps the need to be listened to and taken seriously is more important than being "right" or "wrong". Good data needs the whole picture. I believe that we can only think we are “wrong” when we buy into the belief that others are “right”. The same approach as science. We have no middle without discovering the ends. It is only when we open ourselves enough to question the other person and open ourselves to question ourselves, that we understand. Wouldn’t it be cool to have someone say- “Oh, I thought i heard this my way but what did you hear?” Perhaps the need to be listened to and taken seriously is more important than being “right” or “wrong”. Good data needs the whole picture.

]]> http://janeshure.com/blog/2009/04/14/the-im-right-your-wrong-dynamic/#comment-44 Dirnov Thu, 16 Apr 2009 01:41:54 +0000 http://janeshure.com/blog/?p=49#comment-44 Hi, janeshure.com - da best. Keep it going! Hi, janeshure.com - da best. Keep it going!

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